personal
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A march for something important
Sunday’s Pride March was another step in my evolving relationship with Pride events. Marches are a political act rooted in historical struggle, and therefore are different to other community events. In my mind it means I had to be at a place where I don’t just accept myself but get to a point where I…
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2026 is going to be about finding some stability
The past year involved personal growth and new experiences despite challenges at work, parenting, and dysphoria. Moving forward into 2026, the focus will be on establishing routines and balancing writing, relationships, and finances. The goal is to create stability and work towards long-term aspirations, including surgery.
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A much better travelling experience
After getting back from NZ I have been reflecting a little on my last experience while traveling to Bali. In Bali, I was constrained and faced ongoing misgendering, affecting my enjoyment. In contrast, my New Zealand trip, after starting HRT and gaining confidence, allowed for authentic self-expression and with support from my boyfriend, a more…
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Finding joy in something different: Starting a new relationship.
Starting a new relationship as a transwoman in my 30s has been a transformative experience in many ways. It has given me a greater appreciation for the importance of emotional support and acceptance. The positive dynamics have helped foster some personal growth, shared interests, and flexibility, ultimately providing a sense of peace and optimism for…
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Starting to finally like my body.
Two years on HRT and I have reached an important milestone, I am fairly comfortable with my body. It’s feminine and is finally feeling right when I look in the mirror. My journey is far from complete, but reaching this point dispell’s some old fears and fills me with joy.
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The complexities of looking back: Photos of our past self
Coming up to my birthday I always get a bit reflective about my journey and found myself looking at some old photos. They can conjure up some mixed emotions and while some images evoke painful memories of loss and past struggles, many others represent significant moments and my core identity.
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Give yourself a break: the ongoing challenge of showing myself compassion.
I have been stuggling to show myself compassion. Instead, I tend to blame myself when things don’t go well and have unreasonable expectations. It’s a mindset I need to break by taking some small steps, and part of that is talking about it.
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Bisexual Erasure on ongoing issue within the LGBTQIA community
The post discusses the persistent issue of bisexual erasure within the LGBTQIA community, highlighting the marginalization faced by bisexual and pansexual individuals due to binary thinking and societal stereotypes. It emphasizes the need for acceptance and validation of diverse identities, urging the community to focus on inclusivity and shared experiences to combat discrimination and rejection.
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The sad reality of trans experience and being hated.
Hate is everywhere at the moment, and for trans people, it is sadly a fact of life. Even in supportive environments like Australia, it is part of our experience. It means that we regularly have to find the strength to keep going and rely on those around us for support.
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Making the word count; the challenge of writing for competitions
Currently, as I am working on my latest story and trying hard to make the word count, I thought it was the perfect time to reflect on a couple of the challenges of writing for competitions.
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The power of acceptance and the moments that go unnoticed
Acceptance is crucial for the LGBTQIA community, particularly during the vulnerable moments of coming out. Positive reactions provide vital support, while rejection, often from close relations, can lead to significant mental health issues. Continuous acceptance is necessary and should be reflected in daily interactions, promoting a sense of belonging and reducing feelings of isolation.
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Lines composed out of frustration and depression
The writer reflects on the loneliness of always being the organizer in social situations, feeling dejected when friends and family do not reciprocate. Despite the desire for connection and spontaneity, they experience frustration during canceled plans and a lack of invitations, which intensifies feelings of isolation and self-doubt.